Sunday, April 14, 2013

Goodbye My Friend





Oh we never know where life will take us

I know it's just a ride on the wheel
And we never know when death will shake us
And we wonder how it will feel

So goodbye my friend
I know I'll never see you again
But the time together through all the years
Will take away these tears
It's okay now
Goodbye my friend

I've seen a lot things that make me crazy
And I guess I held on to you
We could've run away and left well maybe
But it wasn't time and we both knew

So goodbye my friend
I know I'll never see you again
But the love you gave me through all the years
Will take away these tears
I'm okay now
Goodbye my friend

Life's so fragile and love's so pure
We can't hold on but we try
We watch how quickly it disappears
And we never know why

But I'm okay now
Goodbye my friend
You can go now
Goodbye my friend



Lantern launch, March 22, 2013 at CUE Center for Missing Persons National Conference.  

Release of ashes ceremony, April 13, 2013, Springmaid Pier, Myrtle Beach, SC.

Goodbye, Susan.......


L O V E

D

Tuesday, March 26, 2013

Old Friends, New Friends, Friends Forever

 

The CUE Center for Missing Persons National Conference was always a highlight for Susan. This year was no exception. Although not there in person, her spirit soared all around each and every one who was there.

If she were there she would have made sure to hug all the old friends she met at previous conferences, dried a few tears, talked about the cases, and put things in motion as only she could do.

Susan would have met many new friends among the new faces this year, those who have heard of her, but didn't have the opportunity to meet her, as well as those she was close to by phone, but hadn't met in person. There weren't any strangers in her life, especially those who may have needed her help.

I know she was smiling as she observed the way people take care of people here, it's like no other experience, and among it all, it's creating closer bonds with those who are hurting, whatever the reason.

Susan and Monica....what can we say! Two powerhouses who come together to forge a friendship and take on whatever comes their way. Two forces of nature seeking the way to stop the hurt for the thousands they encounter.

There's nothing like friends, when all else fails us, whether it be family, or enemies made along the way,  the love of a true friendship lasts forever.

Thursday, February 28, 2013

It's YOUR Day!




This picture was found on your computer and was titled "light." It seems appropriate that the light from your heavenly place is shining so bright today, your birthday.

Last year you wore the traditional plastic tiara, wand and robe (pink blanket!) to celebrate being the "princess of the day!" Thanks for setting up that tradition!

Today you're wearing a crown of gold and jewels waving your "pixie dust" all over the place!

It's your special day, the day of your birth that we celebrate, with heartfelt thanks that you touched the thousands of lives impacted by your presence on earth.

Now that you've been gone for exactly 4 months, we all feel the void in our lives left by your passing, but, on the other hand, the world as we know it is a better place because you were in it.

Birthdays are a celebration of life, and we celebrate your life today and reflect on all the happy memories you left for each of us, all our own.



Happy Birthday, our friend. As we pass each date and holiday without you, we miss you more.


D





Thursday, November 22, 2012

25 Days: Grateful for Susan in Our Lives



Thanksgiving Day brings us to day 25 without Susan's earthly presence. Her scent still lingers in her room which brings a certain sense of comfort as I try to sort through her personal belongings and make the hard decisions about what to do with them.

Susan taught us all so many lessons, some from her personal experiences and some from her depth of knowledge and spiritual connections. She made holidays sparkle, it was her favorite time to cook something special, even if just putting it together from whatever we had in the pantry. Like magic, a sumptuous meal appeared!

Gratefulness abounds this year amid the sorrow of not having her sitting at the table or making mashed potatoes. I share my personal gratitude for having her in my life for the season that she was intended to be with me. 

I've always loved the meaning behind this poem and it helps me through this difficult time. I hope all who read here were blessed by Susan's presence in your life as well, for whatever reason she came into it.

......Delilah



People always come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime.
When you figure out which it is, you know exactly what to do.

When someone is in your life for a REASON,
It is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inwardly.
They have come to assist you through a difficulty,
Or to provide you with guidance and support,
To aid you physically, emotionally, or even spiritually.

They may seem like a godsend to you, and they are.
They are there for the reason you need them to be.
Then, without any wrong doing on your part or at an inconvenient time,
This person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.

Sometimes they die. Sometimes they just walk away.
Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.
What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done.
The prayer you sent up has been answered and it is now time to move on.

When people come into your life for a SEASON,
It is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn.
They may bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.
They may teach you something you have never done.

They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.
Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season.
And like Spring turns to Summer and Summer to Fall,
The season eventually ends.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons;
Those things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation.
Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person anyway;
And put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas in your life.

It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.
Thank you for being part of my life,
Whether you were a reason, a season or a lifetime.

Author – Unknown


Monday, November 5, 2012

Susan Murphy Milano: Gone But NEVER Forgotten


Photos by Monica Caison
FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE

Susan Murphy Milano, National Advocate, Dies of Cancer

Nationally recognized for her work with victims of abuse

Myrtle Beach, SC………On Sunday morning, October 28, 2012,  Susan Murphy Milano, one of the nation’s leading pioneer advocates for victims of intimate partner violence, lost her battle with the ultimate abuser, cancer, in Myrtle Beach, South Carolina.  Susan left this earth from the home of her close friend, caretaker, and business partner of several years.  She was 52.
Throughout her 20 year career Murphy Milano was well known as an outspoken, fiery activist who took on the role of protector of the abused, often using distinctive methods for insuring safety from their abusers.
Susan Murphy Milano began her one woman crusade in 1989 after the death of her beloved mother at the hands of her police detective father. Growing up in a household which held many secrets, she vowed that the world would look differently at battered women and provide necessary resources which weren’t available to help her mother.
Murphy Milano’s books, “Defending Our Lives”, “Moving Out, Moving On” and Time’s Up, are considered the “bibles” of how to make the move away from abuse and deal with the many confusing situations surrounding violence prevention, stalking, break-up or divorce.
Her latest book, based on the experiences of her life, “Holding My Hand Through Hell,” was released on October 4, 2012.
Susan received many awards and accolades through the years for her work with victims of abuse, and her quest for justice was instrumental in the passage of the Illinois Stalking Law and the Lauternberg Act.  She has been prominently featured in newspapers, magazines, radio and television including: The Oprah Winfrey Show, Larry King Radio, ABC’S 20/20, Justice Files, E-True Hollywood, CNN, Sunday Today Show Profile, Women’s Day, Family Circle, US News and World Report to name only a few.   She frequently participated in guest media commentary panels on major news programs and appeared in the 2010 A&E Biography of Drew Peterson.
In recent years Susan was involved in several radio shows, co-hosting Crime Wire, a regular guest spot on syndicated The Roth Show, and her own radio show, Time’s Up, which featured unsolved cases to which she was bringing attention, missing persons with Monica Caison of CUE Center for Missing Persons, and true crime author interviews.
Beginning in 2007 she covered the disappearance of Stacy Peterson extensively on her blog, Murphy Milano’s Journal, often making bold statements which later proved to become eerily true. On a visit with Stacy’s Pastor, Neil Schori, she became inspired to develop theEvidentiary Abuse Affidavit which, when properly used, helps successfully prosecute cases where the victim becomes incapacitated, missing or murdered, allowing it to be entered into evidence and being the victim’s testimony against the perpetrator, thus circumventing most hearsay laws.
Susan Murphy Milano’s legacy will continue through the efforts of her many colleagues who will attempt to fill her shoes providing expert training and presentations based on her work and the Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit. Through her affiliation with Sandra L. Brown of The Institute for Relational Harm Reduction, and Pastor Neil Schori, the site Document The Abuse was created to house information about the Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit and future development of Susan’s ideals.
Susan was preceded in death by her mother, Roberta Murphy, and her father, Philip Murphy, of Chicago. She is survived by a brother, a sister and her son, along with hundreds of colleagues and thousands of friends, survivors and followers across the country.
A memorial service to honor her life is being planned at Naperville Christian Church with Pastor Neil Schori officiating in Naperville, Illinois, and the scattering of her ashes in South Carolina at a later date.
In lieu of flowers, Susan requested that donations be made towards establishing a trust to help victims in crisis. Donations can be made through her site http://www.conqueringcancer.me

Sunday, October 28, 2012

Susan is Soaring With the Angels




On Sunday, October 28 when many across the country were praying for Susan to find peace and to let God bring her home, she passed through the doorway of the mansion in heaven that was prepared for her.

Is she gone from us? No way.

Susan's work lives on in each and every victim of violence that she figured out how to save, it goes on through each case she offered her expertise that got the attention it needed to make progress, she lives on through each friend who touched her life and to whom she gave so freely. Although her shoes can never be filled, her work will continue.

All of us have a favorite memory, picture and story about Susan. Please feel free to leave your words here in the comment section.

Memorial announcements will be made for a time in the future.

......Delilah